The Ages of Love: What We Seek in Every Moment?

Love. It is a single word, but it has so many meanings and so different that we could fill a dictionary with the result. And that only in the case of women, of course. We have resorted to the science and recent studies for Discover what meaning the word “love” and ask according to our age.

Fifteen: I don’t know what I want, but I want it now.

About twelve years and seven months, it is the exact moment in which a girl becomes a woman, come on, when you have the period for the first time (although this time is quite influenced by our genetic inheritance and environmental factors and can vary greatly between a girl and another). And from that time any female hormones are aroused and ready to spree!

According to the science to the fourteen already quite restless, which often lead to enough tantrums with parents and complicated conflicts with the male sex. It is like riding an emotional roller coaster called Inferno Double Loop and get off to ride the Demon Triple Twist.

We don’t have any idea of what we want to, of so confusing that we can become.

According to Dr. Wyndol Furman, Professor of psychology from the University of Denver and author of the book “The Development of Romantic Relationships in Adolescence”, understand love in adolescence requires understanding that the teenager is an emotional cauldron in which the main fuel – much more than parents, friends, or studies and all the things you are interested in general – is the opposite sex.

But also according to Dr. Furman adolescents lack social skills and they cannot control their emotions, which is not good news when it comes to maintaining a relationship and you can make them really hard. Then what we seek them? Because they are fun, they entertain us, make us company and They also allow us to practice when it comes to managing our emotions.

Dr. Reed Larson of the University of Illinois also has studied in depth the world of teen love and one of the first things that confirm their studies is that girls may be happy or very unhappy, infinitely superior to adult levels. Especially if that emotion is associated with love. And is that in the words of this professional is needed time to make a girl discover that a relationship is more than just a mad crush on or an irresistible attraction, It is an entity in which the personalities of two people working together.

And meanwhile… we practice sex. According to the study habits of life and health in adolescents, the sexuality of young people is part of friendship, fun and casual exchange between friends. Something you need to do to have fun, but that is not free of the pressure of being part of a gang, because something is also which should be subject to be accepted.

Twenty years: I’m looking for experience but I find experimentation.

According to a study conducted by researchers at the University of Texas, are girls who have waited until this decade for couple and, eye, losing his virginity, which are better educated, have better jobs and get to the end better relations. Sounds very conservative, right?

They are the sextimentales.

They enjoy more freedom than ever before, in a world dominated by technology, changing and plural… and his conception of love runs parallel to all these continuous changes. Prima flee complications, sex without commitment, the fiesta, not eating the head, making zapping on relations,…

In the background is all part of a process of self-knowledge. According to the psychologist Jaione García “at that age have already have lived several amorous and sexual experiences that are influencing and shaping the concept on oneself and also the idea of how the world of the couple.” In many cases, the first relations leave a sediment of frustration, insecurity and lack of self-esteem that creeps”.

But 20 are not only the stage of freedom and frenzy that we imagine that is why.

According to a study it is also a decade marked by terrible insecurities around our self-esteem and sexual confidence. To meet the twenty-five we went through our personal time low, with our confidence in tatters, too obsessed to get the perfect body or comparing us with the sexual acrobatics that we think make the others. This study also emphasizes in the very much affecting us stress to deal with sexual intercourse, especially our concern by us pregnant by accident or catch a disease by sexual transmission. If we combine all these “fears” and add them to the instability of any young women every day we came to the conclusion that raw material more experimentation than experience.

Until the 27. Until that time and according to a study conducted by the company Opera North we have fallen in love with us about four times on average. And not all of Ryan Gosling! But What we really want now is stability, a stable couple, a home and the possibility to be able to plan vacation together.

The study also comes to the conclusion that the 33% of women find their first serious and stable relationship at the age of twenty-seven.

At the age of thirty: I want to enjoy my best moment.

What’s more: science has determined that at the age of thirty-four, you’ll be at your best sexual and personal. The thirty are the Decade of the personal and professional accomplishment. Also the time of know the same, be more realistic, more attention to the emotions and be open to learn or change as needed. And that also affects the way we see the love.

Probably in this decade you’re already living with a partner, and you’ve got to get to where you want in your work. This will also be the moment in which you will enjoy an increase, although you know that according to the statistics of the European Union your salary will remain up to 20% lower than that of men.

You will travel. You will meet world. You will feel good in your skin.

According to the Durex report on sexual well-being in Spain thirty years women feel more satisfied than men (up to 25 years satisfaction levels are higher in them, and from the 34, in us), begins a real search for the ultimate couple. It is not that we forget the romance or spontaneity, but we also value more practical aspects of face to the future and form a family. According to the psychologist and sexologist Carmen Raya, should avoid “the low self-esteem, stay hooked to an unhealthy relationship for believing that if it is not you passed the rice”.

It is also the time in which you begin to become obsessed with parenting, now that feel safe, both emotionally and economically. And that can be a hurricane that put all feet above. Including this relationship in which you’ve invested so much.

At forty: I want to start from the beginning.

According to the National Institute of statistics, the middle ages in our country that a woman could put an end to their marriage is 42.8 years.

Yes, with 1940s also comes the desire to start over and give him a new chance to new relationships.

And, curious, also in this decade is when better and safer we feel in bikini!! And confidence in the same seems a thing of youth, but According to a study carried out in the year 2014, all respondents felt better and safer for themselves now that they were reaching the fifty than when they had twenty years. And up to 36% felt more pretty and fit than ever before. Bravo!

From the fifties: never too late to say “Yes, I want”.

Good and bad news. The good: that at this age are already sure of what you really want to do with your life, you have escaped debts and finally you’ve fired mortgage, you feel safer at work and in your relationships.

Bad? With the arrival of the menopause and the obvious signs of aging you start to become the Invisible woman.

But It is not the end of your love life. Not at all. According to a study your sex life can be richer and more interesting that in previous years, in part because now you have more time to relax and there are no unexpected pregnancies that worry. This same study came to the conclusion that up to 37% of interviewed mature couples made love at least once a week and 16% more!

And you also defend to death that it is never late for love. A study conducted in the United Kingdom found that up to 10% of singles from more than sixty-five years was more than willing to embark on a relationship to age. And up to 12% confessed that he was willing to try new things with your partner always.

According to the Britain´s Office for National Statistics, marriage is more fashionable than ever between middle-aged couples. And the number of fiancées with more than sixty-five years has grown in recent times to 21%. The conclusion is that with more than 60 years we still believe in love and we feel freer than ever to remake our lives.

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